Our kids need us.
They need us even when we feel like we can barely go on and our plates are overflowing with emotions, bills, worry. They need us.
They need us to protect them, they need to feel safe, they need to feel empowered, they need to know that in time everything will be okay even if it is rough right now.
They are watching our every move and how we react to every situation. They are learning from our actions no matter how young or old they are.
They are our future,our life, our purpose.
Being a single parent doesn’t mean our children are going to be “screwed up” as many people in our world point out and try to prove. Many many successful people came from single parent households, I bet you even know a few yourself! And I can also bet that if you have met or meet a “screwed up” person some of them are from 2 parents households.
SO many more factors play into whether our children will be positive adults in our society or whether they will fall many times before grasping their potential.
Raising children as a single parent does raise the chances of certain things occurring if we are not watchful, mindful and if we do not empower our children against predators.
“The statistics on the sexual abuse of children are staggering. Some estimates place the incidence as high as 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthday (Aust. Institute of Criminology, 1993). And these are only the reported cases.
Children who live with a single parent that has a live-in partner or that date a high number of people are at the highest risk of sexual abuse: they are 20 times more likely to be victims of sexual abuse than children living with both biological parents (Sedlack et al, 2010).”
The above facts are SCARY and HEARTBREAKING! But it doesn’t have to be this way! We as parents can prevent this by empowering our children and teaching them about body safety!
This link provides some great information. http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/sexual-predators-targeting-single-parents/
Nobody wants to believe it can happen to their children. Believe me I know. It is something nightmares are made of.
“I don’t know anyone who would do this to my children” “My children would tell me if someone tried to touch them” Those statements are so very often false…
Some other great resources to raise awareness are:
Depending on your child’s age there are some really great books for you to read together! I will list a few here for you but know that there are so many others and for all ages!
Definitely not an easy topic to cover but it is such an important 1.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. Make it a priority today to talk to your child about body safety!
If this is a difficult topic for you to discuss with your child and you are not sure how to go about starting the conversation, I can help! Please feel free to visit my contact page and set up a time for us to sit and talk and create a game plan of how to approach this subject with your child or children. You are not alone with this!